—Mark O’Bar, Van Buren, Arkansas Judging from my experience with intelligent women, I recommend telling them outright that you find their intelligence appealing! This is a nice compliment (and has the benefit of being true, which is not always the case with compliments), and it implies that you are also quite intelligent, which you probably are. If you were not, you would often find very intelligent women—no matter how pleasant and personable they are—intimidating or bothersome instead.